About

Sophie Tobin

“Humor and empathy are big parts of my personality, so naturally they play a large role in my work as a therapist.”

Why I became a therapist

I became a therapist for a multitude of reasons, all coming from places of hurt, healing, love, and passion. I look around at our world and see a place full of joy, suffering, and everything in between. It is an honor to hold space for all of these feelings and moments with my clients. I have also had a lifelong fascination with all things surrounding relationships, sex and sexuality. I believe in the importance of thinking systemically, as this helps us understand our lives within these greater societal backdrops. Many of us failed to receive comprehensive, sex-positive sex education, resulting in life-long feelings of shame, stigma, and misinformation surrounding intimacy and relationships. How can we expect to see lasting, meaningful change in therapy without recognizing the impact the world has had on us? As an MFT in training, I look at you and see a vast network of relationships and experiences. Together, we will parse through your family history, your culture, and your history to gain a better insight on where you stand today.

Who I work with

Do you struggle with sexual desire and feel like your partner is always more in the mood than you are (or vice-versa)? Are you currently struggling with dating and worried you won’t find a good match? Do you want to explore kink or non-monogamy, but aren’t sure how to go about doing so? Did you wait until marriage to have sex for the first time, but are now struggling to enjoy sex with your partner? If any of these questions resonated with you, you’re in luck! I would be honored to work with any and all people who may be having these experiences. If none of these questions rang true, have no fear! I am more than happy to work with any issues related to sex, intimacy, relationships, queerness, neurodivergence, and more.

“Together, we will parse through your family history, your culture, and your history to gain a better insight on where you stand today.”

Working With Me

I approach therapy with authenticity first and foremost. After all, I sure wouldn’t want to see a therapist who was pretending to be someone they aren’t! Humor and empathy are big parts of my personality, so naturally they play a large role in my work as a therapist. I consider myself a lifelong learner (in other words: a total nerd). I love being a therapist and sharing what I know with others. As your therapist, I will work collaboratively with you to share the knowledge that I have accumulated during my education. This process, known as psychoeducation, allows for a free flow of information and collaboration between me and my clients. This may take the form of delving into how anxiety manifests in the body, or reading a chapter together on how to work with mismatched sexual desires in your relationship. I use a collaborative, feminist approach to help you examine how power structures have impacted you. I do not believe in lecturing, shaming, or talking “at” someone; instead, I believe in collectively learning and growing into our fullest potentials. Together, we will ask difficult questions, confront harmful mindsets, all while embracing the complicated feelings that arise in the process.

My Qualifications and trainings

  • I am currently pursuing a Master of Arts in Couple and Family Therapy at Adler University.
  • I received my Bachelor of Arts in Sociology with a minor in Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies from Barnard College of Columbia University
  • I am in the process of completing a Certificate in Sex Therapy, which will eventually lead to becoming a Certified Sex Therapist
  • I have conducted research on the relationship between abstinence-only sex education and rape culture. 
  • In my free time, I love to crochet, go thrifting, and attend lindy hop social dances.

Ready to overcome the barriers holding you back?